Bullying affects a significant number of children, with research indicating that 30 percent are involved in bullying either as victims, perpetrators, or both. The remaining majority often witness such incidents. To address this issue, parents and caregivers can take steps to prevent their children from becoming bullies.
Stephen S. Leff, PhD, a psychologist at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) and co-director of CHOP’s Center for Violence Prevention, provides guidance on how to raise empathetic and respectful children.
Dr. Leff emphasizes starting early by not dismissing insensitive behavior as developmentally appropriate. He notes that “aggressive behavior can show up in kids as early as the preschool years.” Encouraging empathy through questions like “How would you feel if your friend didn’t share his toys?” is advised.
Modeling respectful behavior at home is also crucial. According to Dr. Leff, “Kids can be influenced by how a temper is expressed at home.” Creating an inclusive environment helps reinforce respect and caring for others.
Teaching self-control is another important aspect. Dr. Leff advises teaching children problem-solving skills and methods like counting to ten or imagining a happy place before reacting impulsively.
Maintaining open communication lines is essential from an early age. Dr. Leff suggests checking in with children daily about their experiences: “These early conversations keep the lines of communication open.”
For further information on preventing bullying, resources such as CHOP’s “All About Bullying” fact sheets and external Bullying Prevention Resources are available.
